Resistance: Know your Enemy!

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Waboom! The epiphany descends, a glorious new creative idea. In a Technicolor flash I see the spectrum of my next great screenplay, sure to be success, the best I’ve ever done. I scribble down the first few lines and resume my day, satisfied I’m still on track towards my dream of becoming a filmmaker of fame and fortune. Then, as usual, life gets busy. A few days pass, I keep telling myself I’ll wait for the right moment to sit down with the project, to devote some real time to developing it. A week passes and then another, I start to doubt that the idea is even worth it. A month later, I find the scribbled page of my notebook with the original flash. Damn, this is an awesome idea. I’d been had, and it wasn’t the first or the last time…

“Most of us have two lives. The life we live and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands resistance”.

Stephen Pressfield, The War of Art

You’re too tired, too busy, too distracted. The idea is so good that you need to just do one more thing before you really really start. It’s too noisy outside, you’re suddenly hungry, the fridge really needs to be cleaned and oh wait, your pants are too tight.

Sound familiar? These are all symptoms of resistance, and you are wise to get to know your foe before it totally derails you from ever knowing the feeling of realizing your potential.

Resistance is an unconscious mechanism that will do anything to stop us from achieving our evolution, be it spiritual, creative or making our mark on the world. Stephen Pressfield’s creative handbook, “The War of Art” goes into great depth of exploring where and how this nemesis plays out. He describes creativity as a war, and as his 5th century predecessor, military strategist Sun Tzu states in “the Art of War”, it is always wise to both know your enemy and yourself before going into battle.

The Many Faces of Resistance

Remember, Resistance is unconscious. Would we stop ourselves from achieving our true potential? Nevertheless it is a worthy opponent and is often fueled by our underlying fears. The antidote? Do it anyway! Call the job lead, go to the event, take the singing lessons. No one is immune to resistance; those who succeed in achieving their goals have often built the strength to forge ahead, to know the many faces of their enemy.

Procrastination, self­doubt, fatigue, drama (getting pulled into yours or others) are all familiar tropes of resistance. It can get tricky sometimes, like when resistance often tells you that it would be easier NOT to do the task at hand, which is probably true. But is life most satisfying when it is easy? Do we grow and thrive when everything is a mouse click away?

And how about when reality doesn’t behave? You finally psych yourself up to go to the gym and a massive rainstorm comes down as you go to catch the bus. Or your computer crashes when you sit down to write the first draft of your book. Is this the universe giving you a sign that it’s not meant to be, or is it resistance? The answer: Get wet and start your first draft on paper. i.e. Do it anyway and see how good you feel on the other side!!

Get Smart

We all have our weak areas that the opponent will seek out. Get to know how resistance shows up for you and what it feels like when you are in it. I know that resistance comes in as fatigue and even physical pain for me. My strategy: take little bites everyday. I won’t let resistance take a day of writing from me, even if it’s just 20 minutes at a time. And if I miss one, I am more ruthless to make up the time the next day. Know your blind spots and make a plan. I had a friend who was always late for her meditation classes. Her approach? Leave an hour earlier.

Ultimately consider Pressfield’s suggestion to “use it as a compass.” When resistance shows up, it means you’re onto something really good. If it persists, you are really going strong! As you continue to build up your ability to face it and conquer its temptation, the more you will be able to feel your Genius and follow her guidance.

For more tips on living spiritually strong, check my post The 5 keys of the Spiritual Warrior.

Elinor Svoboda

~Level 1 and 2 teacher

 

 

Sensitivity? In this harsh world? Why?

Students who are drawn to spiritual study often find themselves to be coined “too sensitive”, which can feel like both a blessing and a curse. We reached out to Faye Fitzgerald, founder of the Training in Power Academy, to gather her unique perspective on how to manage our sensitivity while opening up to our greater gifts.

Were you a sensitive child? What was that like for you?

I could see energy flows and I knew things, though I couldn’t always explain why or how. And then people began to know I knew things, like my 4 older brothers would be fixing something and if they couldn’t figure out what was wrong they’d say, “Go get Faye”. And I would come out and say, “It’s that” and point at something. I didn’t know the thing-a-ma-gig’s name, but it was a thing-a-ma-gig! (laughs) I think I’m still a bit like that.

It’s very difficult for those of us who work in what would be considered Law or Power to live without Truth, even as children. You can’t walk around lying to people so you just learn to be quiet and I was extremely quiet. I had a stepfather who made sure we had no opinion, so I didn’t talk for years. I cultivated my own inner world and grew up in a very tough environment. So while I was very sensitive, on the flip side, I would say I was numbed, dumbed down and broken in so many ways, including a broken skull. I lost certain abilities to feel other people’s feelings because it was so violent and dangerous. The irony of it is as a psychic, I don’t think you can avoid knowing things, but do I have to feel everybody’s feelings to know that? I don’t think I could.

So I don’t think one can afford to live a life of being sensitive to the point of breaking yourself. Because I believe that has already been done to us for the most part, or else the world would be more sensitive. I think you have to get to the point where you recognize that sensitivity is a tool and a powerful force of intuitive knowingness.

What I’m hearing is that you’re talking about a balance of not collapsing into the sensitivity, but being able to navigate it.

That’s right, finding a balance rather than being overcome with emotions and feelings to the point where you are paralyzed and you can’t function. I see this with people who deal with anxiety, depression or phobias where they’re really just stopped because the emotion is so magnified. People become so angry because they really think they should be able to control everything from their intellect. What I try to teach them is that there is a correct message in all of these feelings; they just need to learn how to interpret the information.

How did you find that balance for yourself? Coming from the extremes of your upbringing?

I went to God. We refer to that force as Source and I’m starting to call it the ‘Source Dimension’ now because I understand the vastness of this area of sensitivity. I looked at the tough love of this area and the level of sensitivity to feel all and know all, and I learned. I learned to embrace the power of seeing all and knowing all and I also learned how to manage that sensitivity.

I don’t know that humanity really understands how vile humans can be to each other, and it’s always a big shock when that awareness comes home. When you see the concentration camps of World War II or the killing fields of Cambodia, it’s a sickness that pervades our species that I believe we are attempting to cure. I sometimes refer to this earth as the ‘hospital plane’.

What have you built into the foundational course work you teach in order to help people come to their sensitivities in a healthy way?

We are in the business of souls. We work with people at a soul level, that they will come on board and start to get well. By that I mean that they start to perceive the areas where they really are dysfunctional. This occurs when people start to realize who they really are and that they are not the patterning or trauma that has been imposed on them.

From here they start to recognize they have a nobility of nature and that puts them in a position to be able to heal themselves. With that, they come into a Lawful position of Self First. Some think this sounds selfish, but what we mean is that one must tend to their own self before helping another, so you are not a leaky bucket anymore.

Once you are filling yourself with light and power, you are going to learn how to wield this power and heal with it. So as you go along you heal more and you have more power and light, which gives you more power to heal. This creates a great strength and wellness in an individual who is willing to do this work.

How can we be more sensitive to each other as on this ‘hospital plane’?

There can be a double standard sometimes, we look at our artists and we expect them to be sensitive and then we look at someone like a truck driver with the expectation that they’re not. And they get mad, because they want to be treated with sensitivity and respect and yet they have to put on this obnoxious show that they’re not sensitive. It’s a delicate ride through humanity.

I’m very loving with people, but I tend to be very formal. I’m very respectful and honoring of people and I’ve never gone wrong with it. This means there is no contemptuousness or people taking advantage of each other and respecting each other’s differences. Formality, sincerity, respect and honoring are all signs of you honoring and respecting yourself, which is important. Give it to yourself and then you can give it to another. That is the key to guarding the sensitivity of others.

Faye Fitzgerald is the founder of the Training in Power Academy, a spiritual education system that offers over 20 courses in meditation, spiritual healing and self-empowerment. She has been teaching and counselling people to their spiritual wellness for over thirty years. Find out more at www.fayefitzgerald.com

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